HAVE A DEDICATED SELF-CARE REGIMEN
“If you can’t take care of yourself, you can’t take care of the people who depend on you. The top leaders and most successful people in the world make fitness a priority,” says Marcello Pedalino, a fitness trainer, mindfulness coach and author of Celebrate Life. “They know that mental fortitude, determination, and discipline are all positive side effects of being in the best shape of your life. Sleep, nutrition, and exercise are the foundation and a consistent implementation of all three are paramount if you want to be ready for whatever life throws your way.”
This is a good habit at any age, but it’s critical in your 40s, when a daily sunscreen routine can make the difference between a smooth face or a Danny Trejo look. Find one with moisturizer to both protect you from sun damage and help fight off those wrinkles.
HANDLE DARK CIRCLES
Besides wrinkles another common complexion problem that afflicts you in your 40s is the puffy dark patches under your eyes. You’ll want to make eye cream a standard part of your morning routine, helping keep you from looking like you partied too hard over the weekend and helping you to maintain a youthful glow.
Manual toothbrushes have been consistently found to be less effective than electric toothbrushes. With the wide range of styles and price points now available with these electronic versions, there’s no excuse not to upgrade. Your teeth and gums will thank you.
HAVE A MORE ACTIVE BEDROOM
If you’re in a committed relationship, there’s a good chance the sex has tapered off a bit from your honeymoon period. Try to reignite the spark and make sex a nightly habit. Not only does it feel good—orgasms have been found to reduce stress and depression, increase your body’s immunity to infection, and help you burn some calories, too.
TAKE MORE TIME IN THE BEDROOM
Just as you should be having more sex, you should also be going longer. Extend your foreplay, get candles and some music playing, introduce new positions and places. Get adventurous with your partner. Making a habit of getting more creative in the bedroom will strengthen your relationship and make you feel healthier, more relaxed, and more fulfilled.
HAVE MONTHLY DATE NIGHTS WITH YOUR GOALS
Just as “date nights” are great habits for taking a step out of the daily routines and responsibilities of long-term relationships, you want to do the same for your life goals. “Most people live life on autopilot and are not intentional about designing their life or being clear about how they want to live and be in every part of their life,” says Shefali Raina, executive coach at The Wall Street Coach.
“When they hit their 40s, thoughts come up such as ‘is this all there is?’ ‘what do I look forward to?’ ‘what the F- am I doing with my life?’”But by getting into the habit of reviewing your goals and how you are spending your hours, you will become more intentional in your daily life and be more likely to reach your long-term ambitions. During this “date night,” Raina suggests that you, “Think about you, and different parts of your life—social, financial, work, wellness, relationships, spiritual, personal development, emotional—and figure out where you are now, where you want to be, and get intentional about getting there.”
KEEP GOOD COMPANY
With increased responsibilities, you have less time to dedicate to friends and socializing, so it’s more important to make a habit of spending the time you do have with people who are going to enrich your own life. According to Pedalino, you can ask yourself about which group a given social connection falls into: a VIP (Very Inspiring Person) or a VDP (Very Draining Person).“Go out of your way to associate with VIPs that will inspire you, empower you, and bring out the best in you,” he says. “Remove yourself from the company of VDPs, people that can come up with a problem for every solution.” He adds that this includes your online and social media interactions.
SPEND TIME WITH MEANINGFUL CONNECTIONS
“Our 40’s are when we are most engaged in our career and family,” says Deborah Heiser, a lifestyle consultant and founder of I.M.AGE and The Mentor Project. “Our time is tight and spending time with those who have meaning in our lives, who we feel most comfortable around, and who we can rely upon allow us to feel a sense of intimacy, trust, and rid ourselves of stress. So, spend less time with people who require energy and effort and more time cultivating deeper relationships with those we value.”
NURTURE YOUR TRIBE
“Science has shown that our social identity is a major part of who we are and deep, authentic social relationships contribute significantly to our happiness,” says Raina. “Any habits that bring energy and attention to our relationships are great. It could be connecting via text, or meeting bi-weekly for a meal, or doing an activity together. The goal is to nurture and reinforce the authentic relationships where we can show and be shown vulnerability.”