Victory means little to you
One of the best indicators that you are too negative is how you deal with something positive—if you get a promotion at work and your mind immediately goes to how the extra work might be overwhelming, or if you find out a friend is visiting and instantly start worrying that you might not be able to entertain them.
“When we experience good things, we can become anxious that we might lose them or that they’re temporary,” says Julie Williamson, LPC, NCC, RPT, a therapist and founder of Abundant Life Counseling St. Louis, LLC. “As a result, we look for what’s wrong or not all good about those things so we don’t risk being disappointed or let down if/when they go away. This is damaging because we never fully enjoy the good things we have in the moments we have them, which reinforces our negative worldview.”