You pick fights with your partner
Every couple has their disagreements, over things large and small. But if you find that you and your partner are locking horns on a daily basis, and often you are initiating the disagreements, you might have a negativity problem. A good rule of thumb comes from relationship psychologist John Gottman, who found that marriages last when the positive-to-negative interactions in a relationship are an average of about 5 to 1. When the balance shifts so that you’re saying negative things more often than positive, it’s a recipe for misery and divorce.
