You’re a people pleaser
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Not all people pleasers are passive-aggressive, but many passive-aggressive people are people pleasers. This may seem surprising, as passive-aggressive behavior is considered an unbecoming characteristic, and not a manner someone would adopt in order to be liked.
Clinical psychologist and certified life coach Dr. Cali Estes explains it like this: “[Passive-aggressive people] contemplate, ‘How can I get through this situation without offending anyone, and how can I get out of the situation with everyone still liking me?’” Of course, the catch-22 here is that your aggression—even if given out passively—will likely still offend people.