12. “I hate your family.”
“He may hate his family, too, but deep down he knows that he came from them and they are a part of him—whether they are actively present in your life or not,” Lioi says. “This comes down to identity. Talk about the qualities in his family that you want to make sure the two of you don’t replicate, but just a blanket condemnation of people may get in the way of him working through his own feelings for the flawed parents or siblings he has.”