17. “You’re just like my ex.”
Comparing him to a past lover can be hurtful, even for guys with thick skin. “Most times in life, comparisons are unhelpful to us psychologically,” Hedger explains. “Sadly, they are also often easy things to make. We all have what psychologists call ‘rules and expectations’ for how life should be, and making comparisons is one way to check out if we’re living the type of life we expect to.
Unfortunately, comparing a partner to a previous partner often causes fear and resentment. It can also prevent the partner who is making the comparison from experiencing their current relationship fully and healthily.”
