3. “Why don’t you ever…?”
“No matter what the end of this question is, it is already overflowing with negative connotations and shame before the subject is even delivered,” notes Britanny Burr, a love and relationship expert. “Asking someone why they don’t do something that you would like them to do is not going to make them want to do it; it is merely shaming them and making them feel poorly about something they may not have known you wanted.”
So instead of saying: ‘Why don’t you ever take me out to dinner anymore?’ Try: ‘Wouldn’t it be fun to go for dinner sometime this week?’
