The bottom line
“It’s so easy to get caught up in checklists,” Syrtash said. “Checking off all the boxes of what we think matters in a partnership or in a person.” But she always tells the people she coaches, “You don’t marry a piece of paper. So get off the paper checklist and start paying attention to how you’re showing up. If this relationship is bringing out your best and making you feel comfortable and supported and respected, that’s really important.”