They lost the freedom to be spontaneous
“When you’re maturing it’s all about you, you, you—your career, your friends, your social life,” says Fran Greene, a relationship coach and the author of Dating Again With Courage and Confidence and the upcoming The Secret Rules of Flirting. “So it’s weird,” she continues, “when one night you tell your friend, ‘Hey, let’s go to dinner,’ and then all of the sudden it’s like, ‘Oh, I have a husband at home. Maybe I need to check in and ask him? Or invite him?’” For some couples, she explains, “that’s a rude awakening.”