You and Your Partner Don’t Express Your Emotions Similarly
Have you ever found yourself crying in a fit of rage while your partner hasn’t so much as shed a tear? This may be a sign that your relationship is on the rocks. A couple’s meta-emotions—that is, how people feel about emotion—need to be on the same page, and as John Gottman, PhD, marriage research extraordinaire, discovered, meta-emotion mismatches were 80 percent accurate in predicting divorce. Basically, it’s not about avoiding conflict, but about handling it in a similar way to your partner.
