You Don’t Accept Your Failures—Or Your Role in Them
When you just can’t deal with failures—or you’re always playing the victim—you might possess some narcissistic tendencies. “If nothing is ever their fault and they tend to feel like they’re misunderstood or not valued this may be a sign of narcissism,” Hershenson explains. “They can’t take criticism.” To be sure, no one likes criticism. But narcissists are particularly sensitive to that outside pressure. One would never admit to being accountable for anything.
Serani says that’s because anything remotely threatening to their sense of self has to be “obliterated… So, the narcissist will use techniques like denial, deflection, and blame-shifting,” she explains. “Most narcissists are very skilled at double-talk and can find the right way to twist blame away from themselves—and onto you.”
