They don’t talk about things that are important to you
If your partner seems to try to avoid topics of conversation that are important to you, that’s another potential sign that they might not be emotionally available.
“When the questioning partner introduces important and/or sensitive topics, the emotionally unavailable person is likely to avoid by no providing direct eye contact, delayed return texts, or engaging in body language that confirms he or she is bored with the conversation (slumped posture, eye rolling),” Kubala said. “There is a general inconsistency among those who are emotionally unavailable, as they may be highly engaged within their job or able to engage with their partner physically, but they fall short of emotional attachment or intimacy. Much of an emotionally unavailable person’s relationships will be surface and one-sided, often leading to few friendships and an overall avoidance of emotional interaction.”
When your partner ignores or passively avoids participating in conversations that matter to you, it can be difficult for you to deal with, but pointing out to your partner that they tend to do these things, can potentially help them recognize it as well, Kubala explained.
