They think they’re expressing emotions, but they’re actually not
“[T]his is very common with everyday language and a lot of people do this so – and this may or may not indicate emotional unavailability, but it’s likely to – and an example of this would be when someone says “I feel that…something.” “I feel that you are overreacting.” Well, that’s not an expression of feeling, it’s an expression of belief,” Sultanoff said. “It’s my perspective. “I feel that.” And that’s pretty common that people do that in everyday language.
They say, “I feel that” or “I feel like you were being unfair,” “I feel like I should have gotten a raise,” but that doesn’t express any emotion. So people who have that style are also more emotionally unavailable.”
Of course, you can say something like that on occasion without being emotionally unavailable, but if this is the way that your partner consistently speaks, it could, in fact, be an indication that they might not be as emotionally available as you may have previously thought.
